A few words from Anne:

This letter appeared in syndicated column of Ann Landers.  While it is written from the perspective of a parent providing 24 hour care for a child in the hospital, its message is relevant for a patient of any age requiring 24 hour caregiver support.  Those that find themselves in this difficult and demanding situation might wish to copy this letter and share it with family, friends, etc. 

Dear Ann Landers:  I hope my letter will help some of the caregivers of children who are frequently hospitalized.  I have a child with a long-term medical problem, and I spend three or four weeks in the hospital with him each year.  My husband and I have worked out a system where at least one of us is at his side all day.  

I have met several other parents whose children are in the hospital for long stays, and we have a "wish list" for those who might want to give us a hand.          

1.  If the hospital allows it, please visit us.  Our days start at 6 am  and we cannot leave our young children alone while they are awake.  We would love having a visitor to help break up the tedium and stress.

2.  If our child knows you, can you stay with him or her for a few minutes while we grab a cup of coffee or a quick bite?  I sometimes go for days without talking to my husband alone.  Even a few minutes would be appreciated.

3.  If you cannot visit us, ask if it is OK to call our child's hospital room to chat.  It could be the highlight of our day.

People often forget  that parents of sick children need a break now and then.  Helping us will also help our child, because it allows us to be calm and rested.  --Any Parent, Any Town         

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